The Mission of the Compassionate Friends is to assist families toward the positive resolution of grief following the death of a child of any age and to provide information to help others be supportive.

There are several Compassionate Friends Chapters located in Colorado. Please select any locations convenient for you. You may attend meetings of one or many chapters as you feel you need. There are NO Fees of any kind. We are completely self supporting by donations from our members and communities .



Please, don't ask...

Please, don't ask us if we're over "it" yet.
We'll never be over it.
Please, don't tell us they're in a better place.
They aren't with us.
Please, don't say, "At least they aren't suffering".
We haven't come to terms with why they had to suffer at all.
Please, don't tell us you know how we feel
unless you have lost a child
Please, don't ask us if we feel better.
Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.
Please, don't tell us, "At least you had them for a time".
What year would you choose for your child to die?
Please, don't tell us, "God never gives you more than you can bear".
Please, just tell us you are sorry.
Please, just say you remember our children, if you do.
Please, just let us talk about our children.
Please, mention our children's names.
Please, just let us cry.

Author: Rita Moran

  

Why Compassionate Friends?

As a Compassionate Friend you can expect to receive and should expect to offer in return... FRIENDSHIP - nothing more, nothing less. At a time when you may feel abandoned by many friends and family members we gather for mutual support and we share. We share our pain, we share our tears, we share our kids’ stories, we share our precious memories and most importantly we share ourSELVES. Isn't that what friends do? We can acknowledge and honor our children without fear of being told to "get over it", "move on" or other such nonsense. We have formed a unique bond with one another. We are not brought together by ideology, belief systems, political agendas, occupation or any other sort of earthly trappings. Our bonds are the most powerful forces of love and grief. We love our kids. We miss our kids… deeply. In this group we can freely share our pain and love with those around us because we know they understand how we really feel and we in turn understand how they feel. Our friendships are borne on the shoulders of mutual understanding of the human experience in its truest form. Often, it isn’t fair.

It has been several years since my beloved daughter died. After being on this grief journey for some time, I am constantly awed and inspired by the depth of compassion and love that grieving people share. I have witnessed a young mother, who only had a few short hours to share her lifetime of love for her dying newborn, embrace and comfort a woman who had lost her 40 year old son. Compassion has no limits. Love knows no boundaries - it is universal and complete. These emotions are what unite us and help us to continue when we are at our lowest depth of grief and despair. Our children have become our teachers and guides. How we honor them becomes our connection to them when we feel hopeless and disconnected. How our children died and at what age has little meaning. What matters is how much we loved them, how we remember them and how we carry on in their memory. That is our journey.

David Derby - "Ginger's" dad
Compassionate Friends member
TCF Colorado provides a single point of access for Colorado's bereaved parents and their loved ones, where they can easily obtain support information to help ease their unbearable grief.    In addition we will provide a means to memorialize our precious children who have died, to remind the world that they lived and are very much loved and remembered.